It was 11:40 on a Thursday and I had it typed out. Nothing explicit. Just a message that would have started something, and I knew exactly what it would start, because I'd been rehearsing this for two months in the shower.
I'd done all the preparation without admitting it was preparation. Followed her. Learned her schedule. Found reasons. Told myself we were friends, which was technically true in the way that a fuse is technically string.
I don't have a heroic reason for stopping. I wasn't struck by lightning. I looked at the message and thought about explaining it. Not to my wife — to my brother. I pictured saying it out loud to him, in daylight, in a normal voice, and it sounded exactly like what it was.
So I deleted the app instead of the message, which felt cowardly and was probably the single smartest thing I did.
The next morning I told my brother. Then, four days later — and those four days were the worst part — I told my wife. Not the dramatic version. Just: I've been putting my attention somewhere it doesn't belong, nothing physical happened, and I don't want to be the guy who tells you this in a year with more to confess.
It went badly. It was supposed to go badly. She was hurt and suspicious and it cost us about eight months of real work, and I don't get credit for stopping, because I shouldn't have been standing there.
But we're on this side of it. There's a version of me who sent the text and is reading a page like this from the other side. I think about that guy a lot.
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