The GrassAin’tGreener

The fence

Before you cross the fence

If you're fantasizing about somebody else, emotionally checked out, considering leaving, or convinced you'd finally be happier somewhere else — start here.

Pro-marriage. Not anti-divorce. Nothing here asks anyone to stay in abuse, violence, coercion or fear. The argument is accountability before escape, not marriage at all costs.

  1. 01

    Before the line

    I'm thinking about cheating

    Nobody crosses in one night. It happens in small, survivable-feeling decisions that each look like nothing on their own.

    Start here
  2. 02

    Before the exit

    I'm thinking about leaving

    Some marriages end. The question is whether you're leaving with clear eyes or leaving inside a feeling that will follow you out the door.

    Start here
  3. 03

    After the line

    I've already cheated

    There is no version of this where you get to skip the consequences. There is a version where you stop adding to them.

    Start here
  4. 04

    After the ground moved

    I've been betrayed

    I've been on this side too. Nothing about it is fair, and no one gets to hurry you through it.

    Start here

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